Ever so often, we are introduced to new toys and gadgets that are supposed to help us spice up our bedroom affairs and boost pleasure.
One such device is the Ben Wa Balls. You may have seen them before in movies such as 50 Shades of Grey and 50 Shades Darker and thought to yourself that they are just another outlandish, kinky sex toy that is an automatic no for you. But, after reading this article, you are highly likely to change your stance on the idea altogether and open up your mind to all the amazing benefits you can get from this intimate device.
But before we delve into what ben wa balls can do for you, let’s take a look at what they actually are and what they’re made of.
What are ben wa balls?
Ben Wa Balls have been used throughout history by women all across the world. They were especially popular amongst Japanese and Chinese women, so much so that some people refer to them as geisha balls (from the Japanese culture) or Chinese bells, as some made a jingling noise. Ben wa balls later spread to India and Vietnam and soon they were all over the European markets. From there, the rest of the world would be introduced to ben wa balls.
Also called Kegel balls, love balls and orgasm balls, Ben wa balls are small, marble-sized, hollow balls that are inserted into the vagina for stimulation purposes. Ben wa balls are primarily made of plastic, silicon, and metal and are slightly weighted. They can come in different colors and designs and can come with or without a string.
Ben wa balls also come in a variety of sizes and weights, so you can start large and light until you can manage smaller, heavier balls that are used by the pros. Some ben wa balls even come with a vibrating feature for maximum stimulation and pleasure.
What are they used for?
Even though we have called it a sex toy, ben wa balls not only benefit you in terms of sexual pleasure. They are great for increasing the strength of the pelvic floor muscles. You can also use them while doing Kegel exercises to cure urinary incontinence. These balls are also effective in increasing vaginal elasticity and vaginal health.
Here are some of the most common reasons why ben wa balls are used by women:
Some women use ben wa balls for self-pleasure and so can you. You can put in your ben wa balls during housework to make your tasks seem less dreary and mundane, or during a late-night masturbation sesh. Using ben wa balls while masturbating are said to give you longer, more powerful orgasms, unlike anything you have ever experienced before.
Nothing beats getting a little frisky at the dinner table, but using ben wa balls can kick it up a notch, as they stimulate your vagina and the mere thought of you playing with your ben wa balls can get your partner going. This also increases lubrication which will enhance your sexual experience.
Now, it is not advised to use ben wa balls in the anus as they can get stuck there, but having them in the vagina while you are penetrated anally can give you added sensation an overall improved experience. The way this works is, that while your partner is going to work back there, the pressure this puts on your vagina will push the balls against your G-spot, giving you a kind of massage, which will lead to a memorable climax.
After childbirth which can weaken the muscles in your vagina, doctors recommend Kegel exercises to speed up recovery and strengthen the vagina. Using ben wa balls can make postpartum vaginal recovery much faster, and can help boost your libido.
Urinary Stress Incontinence
How to use Ben Wa Balls
Before you begin to use your ben wa balls, the first thing you should do is ensure that they are clean. To clean them, use hot, soapy water and use your fingers to gently scrub them. This soap should be fragrance-free, and safe to use on your vulva. You can also use spirit oil or sex toy cleaners to sanitize your ben wa balls. Afterward, you may dry them with a towel or paper towel.
The Color Fade Test
I pour boiling water on mine prior to use. If the hot water strips the dye them that is an indication of a poor quality ball.
Remember, that your vagina secretion is acidic and has the potential to strip the color of the ball. You definitely don’t want the dye absorbed by your vagina mucosa and tissue.
You must keep your ben wa balls clean to prevent vaginal or urinary tract infections. It is not a good idea to share your ben wa balls with anyone, even your sexual partner.
Once they are clean. Use a tiny amount of water-based lubricant, or any lubricant of your choice to gently insert them into the opening of your vagina. It is common for ben wa balls to be connected with a string or tiny silicon connector. To get both balls in, you will have to insert the leading ball, and slowly tuck the connector inside, Then, you can insert the second ball in the same manner.
When both balls are inside, gently push them further into your vagina until you feel like they are secure. Bear in mind that the string at the end must hang out like a tampon string so that you can easily pull them out when you are done. If your ben wa balls didn’t come with a string, don’t worry, they won’t get stuck, and you can easily push them out with your vaginal muscles.
Now that they are inside of you, just remember that like a tampon, your vagina will hold them inside of you, so don’t feel nervous about them falling or slipping out. And, once you are wearing underwear, they can’t possibly fall out onto the floor.
Now, you have the option of sitting down and performing Kegel exercise with your ben wa balls, but you can also go for a jog, hit the gym, or go for a walk so that you can properly stimulate and strengthen the pelvic muscles. The more you move, the better they work. You can also sit in a rocking chair or swing.
If you are wearing them for pleasure purposes, using them even as little as a half an hour before sex can increase lubrication and arousal as they slowly turn you on. You can also use your vibrator while they are inside you for a much better orgasm.
Tips for exercising with ben wa balls
Using ben wa balls for pleasure is different than using them for exercise. First and foremost, like many exercises, it will take a bit of practice to get the hang of it. Here are some tips for using ben wa balls to strengthen pelvic muscles and increase vaginal elasticity:
- For your first time around, chose plastic or silicon balls. These should be large and light. Lay on your back when inserting your ben wa balls.
- Practice holding them inside of you for at least 10 minutes a day while doing household tasks until you get used to it. You can also try playing tug-o-war with your ben wa balls by holding them in the vagina while tugging on the cord. This will help to build up resistance.
- The next step is to go for a walk. This will continue to train your muscles until you are ready for smaller, heavier balls.
Ben wa balls are pretty safe, but like everything in life, there are some risks that you should be aware of.
For one, the material from which your ben wa balls are made is extremely important. Buying from sketchy sellers at ridiculously low prices may not be the amazing deal you thought it would be. Some of these balls have dyes that can begin to strip and leave residue inside of you. This can be toxic and can lead to infections or cause irritation.
Secondly, you should never leave them inside of your vagina for more than six hours because this can cause place too much pressure on the urethra and have the opposite effect of whatever you were trying to achieve.
Using heavy balls on your first try can be uncomfortable, and you can risk pain and discomfort.
Lastly, if you have a dog or young kids you know they can be swift to put shiny small objects in their mouths. These balls look like toys or even candy, therefore store them away from your kids and pet because the are a choke hazard. Just don’t leave them on your bed or in your night stand.
To sum it all up
Ben Wa Balls have the potential to transform your sexual experience, as it can increase your internal control during sex, making it more pleasurable for yourself and your partner. Ben Wa Balls can also help to increase pelvic muscle strength, giving you better control of your bladder and vaginal recovery after giving birth.
With Ben Wa balls you have to remember to keep them clean, and to start off slow. After all, weight training takes time, and you will have to work your way up to harder exercises and heavier weights.
Be sure to consult your doctor before using ben wa balls to see if they are the right choice for you, medically. For personal use, see a sex therapist who can advise you on the best options for your vaginal health and personal needs.