There are numerous misconceptions attached to vaginal elasticity. Most of them are related to men attempting to slut shaming or trying to make them feel bad about being sexually liberating. One way they do this is by implying that a loose vagina is due to a lot of sex.

If you believe this, then it means that you should limit the amount of  sexual activity  you have, even with your partner, if you don’t want to end up with a lax or loose vagina.

But this is not true. The reasons for your loose vagina has nothing to do with the amount of sex, the amount of sexual partner nor does it have anything to do with the sexual positions you experiment with.

Sex workers like prostitutes and porn stars engage in more sex than the average woman and they do not worry about having a loose vagina.  Therefore you should not worry either.

However, you should know that if you are experiencing decreasing sensation during sex, lack of lubrication or pain this might be due to decrease elasticity in you vaginal canal.

Sex feels better for YOU when your vagina is tight and has a good friction or grip during penetration. The clitoris has the most nerves and therefore more sensation than the vagina canal but nonetheless sensation in the vagina make sex more enjoyable.

So what are the main reasons for a loose vagina?

The two main reasons why a vagina becomes loos are age and childbirth.


The moment a woman crosses her into her 40s, she suffers from a stage known as peri menopause. Some women can have it earlier. At this age, women tend to have a lower level of estrogen in the body, causing the vaginal tissue to become thinner, more acidic, drier, and highly flexible.

This  causes partial looseness of the vagina. It becomes more severe as you move into menopause due to the low level of estrogen.

Some women also experience early menopause induced by surgery or disease of the ovaries. Since the ovaries produces estrogen, any disease or medication  that interferes with  how the ovaries work can cause symptoms of menopause.


You increase you chance of having a loose vagina due to pregnancy and  childbirth.

If you have a ever been pregnant them you know about the extra weight that you carry around for months. Furthermore, if you had a vaginal delivery then the trauma of the delivery can damage muscles and connective tissue that supports the vagina.

If you plan to become pregnant your doctor can advice you on what exercise you can do to decrease the risk of this occurring.

You might feel your vaginal muscle stretched after the prolonged labor. However, your vagina will get back to its normal shape after a few months. But, if it’s your third or fourth delivery, then the tightening of the vagina might take a bit longer


Exercises That Can Strengthen Your Vaginal Muscle

  Kegel Exercise

Kegel exercise has been the most popular workout that tightens vaginal muscles.

The steps are simple.

  1. Choosing a position that you’re most comfortable in is most important. Most people prefer lying down on the flooor on their back.
  2. The second step is to tighten your pelvic floor muscle, and then hold onto the pull for 5 seconds and then relax the muscle for 5 seconds.
  3. Repeat the exercise for at least six times.

Pelvic Tilt Exercise

Steps to follow:

  1. Stand with your shoulders against the wall.
  2. Take a deep breath so that your belly button moves towards your spine.
  3. Your back would lay straight with the wall.
  4. Inhale and hold your breath for 4 seconds and then release.
  5. Repeat the exercise ten times in a row.
  6. Perform at least five times a day.

Vaginal Cones

A vaginal cone is the easiest and the fastest exercise to tighten the vagina.

  1. Insert a vaginal cone
  2. Squeeze the cone with your pelvic floor muscles for 10 minutes and then release.
  3. Perform this exercise twice in a row, and three times  a day.

Bottom Line

Sexual intercourse does not make your vagina loose. Pregnancy, vaginal delivery and age are the two main reasons. Both are a natural part of living.  Ignore all the myths and work on eradicating the misconceptions. Sharing is caring. Share with your female and male friends. Males needs to be a part of the solution since they are huge factor in the problem.

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