Things you should do before sex

Safe and consensual sex is great sex . If you are going to have sex for the first time in your life, then you are likely feeling a number of emotions right now.

The first one is probably excitement, especially if you know that he/she is the right person, and you can’t wait to give it up..

Then comes a bit of nervousness and anxiety where you start to wonder if you will know the right things to do and say when the moment finally arrives. Even pros are nervous on the first hook up. This is true especially on the first hookup.

You might even feel overwhelmed and begin to question whether you are ready or not. Well, stop right there. You should take a deep breath. Inhale. There is no need to freak out, this is a normal reaction and almost everyone felt like this on their first go at it.

Now, exhale and read this article. Here you will learn everything you need to know and do before your first time. We promise you will feel more comfortable afterward. Let’s go.

Make sure you are ready: give and get consent

First on the agenda is making sure you and your partner are ready. Ask yourself, “Is this what I want?”If you have been pressured into it by peers or your partner into having sex before you are ready, you might find yourself regretting it in the future. You also shouldn’t feel obligated because of age or how long you and your partner have been together.

This decision is yours and yours alone to make when you are ready. Choosing the right partner, i.e someone you can trust is more likely to be more satisfying and comforting.

Grooming

Grooming is an important part of sex. You’ll want to present yourself in a way that is appealing to your partner.

Depending on what he/she is like, you can shave/wax your underarms, legs and pubic area in preparation for the big moment. Some partners like to be able to get a good look at everything and hairy body parts might turn him/her off.

Or, if he/she prefers you au naturale then you can let the bush be free. Just be sure to keep it trimmed and clean.

You can also put your hair in a nice style, or leave it out. Appearance is everything in the first stages, even though things will get messy at the end.

Attire

If you plan to have sex on a particular day, then you can put some thought into what you’ll wear. There are tons of online stores you can order lingerie from if you are too shy to buy it in-store.

Choose something that you think your partner will love, and more importantly what you will feel comfortable in and that will suit your body type. There are so many different types of lingerie to choose from. It could be as simple as a lace bra and panty set or bodysuit, corset and garters. You can even go as far as getting a costume. Anything that will make your first time memorable.

You can even talk to your partner about this, which can make you both even more excited.

If you are both reserved and not into the whole idea of lingerie, choose your most flattering underwear and bra. Whatever makes you look and feel sexy.

Protection

Having sex for the first time will be more of an exploration mission. You will learn more about what you like and don’t like, and you will make “mistakes” that you can learn from.

One mistake you shouldn’t make on your first time around is not using protection. If you don’t, you can end up pregnant.

If your partner has done it before, he might try to convince you that he will just “pull out”. While the withdrawal method has worked for some people, it does not work every time and you can still get pregnant. No matter how much you trust him, you must still take your protection into your own hands especially since it is your FIRST TIME.

Using a condom can do wonders. It will help to prevent pregnancy and STDs. While the condom is usually pretty effective, it is not 100% effective. That’s why some people recommend the double/combined contraceptive technique. This is where you use a condom or any other kinds of contraception with another contraceptive.

A good example is using a condom while taking birth control. On their own, they are pretty effective, but not 100%. Using both will give you a much better chance. Another example is using a spermicide with a condom.

If you are on the shot or the pill, you can have unprotected sex, however, this will not protect you from STDs. This decision should be up to you and based on how much you trust your partner.

The protection talk might seem like a party pooper but it is extremely necessary, especially your first time around.

Diet

What does diet have to do with sex you may ask? Well, a lot actually.

For starters, stay away from anything that makes you farty like beans,  dairy or spicy food before you have sex. The roughage in salads can cause bloating and gas.  If don’t normally eat salads, you should not try to be cute by eating salad for the first if you plan to have sex afterwards. You wouldn’t want to ruin the mood by letting a stinky one escape when you switch position.

Certain foods such as pineapple and yogurt can make you smell and taste great down there and will make the experience more pleasant for your partner. Drinking lots of water can also help to neutralize odor.

You can go for aphrodisiacs such as watermelon, strawberries, and even oysters if you guys go for dinner before the meal, just to help you get in the mood.

Consider having a glass of wine or two. It’s known to boost libido and help you relax. Just don’t overdo it and get drunk, otherwise, you will ruin the mood and will most likely pass out before it gets to that point.

Hygiene

Grooming is a part of hygiene, but here we’re focusing mainly on cleanliness right before you have sex.

Having a bad or unpleasant odor can really ruin the mood. So, take a shower or a bath before having sex. Ensure your underarms are cleaned properly, behind your ears, your hair, and even your belly button. Sex is a very intimate act and he/she will be able to see and smell every inch of you so make sure everything smells clean and fresh. You might even want to use a sweet-smelling body wash, just to help set the mood.

You should also make sure you wash your vagina properly, especially if you are going to have oral sex. Now, this doesn’t mean you should use that sweet-smelling soap on your vagina or buy a douche. These things can throw off your vagina’s pH and you can put yourself at risk of infection. All you need to do is use a gentle soap and wash your vagina gentle. Be sure to get under your labia to wash away any dead skin, discharge or gunk. You should also clean your anal region, as it can come into play during sex.

Although all vaginas come with a scent,  you want to avoid the bad kind. Knowing how to  make your vagina smell better is critical to having amazing sex.

Brushing your teeth is also super important since you will be very close to each other and he/she will be able to tell if you have bad breath and that is sure to turn anyone off.

Once everything is clean and fresh, dry off properly and put on your clean clothes or lingerie. You can even use some perfume or a nice lotion to make you smell yummy. Just don’t overdo it.

Pro tip: Pee before you shower. Having to pee in the middle of sex can be annoying and can completely ruin the mood.

Right place

Losing your virginity can be nerve-wracking so both you and your partner must feel comfortable.

One way to feel more comfortable is by doing it in a safe, cozy place. This is somewhere where you guys are alone and have a good amount of time, to stop and start again if needs be, and most importantly take it slow.

A rinky-dink motel is not the right place, especially if it smells bad or lacks privacy, nor is the back of a car or a truck. You should be completely comfortable and should be able to relax without wondering if someone will interrupt or if you need to hurry up and get it over with.

Foreplay

Foreplay is important because it helps to get you into the mood, and more importantly, gets you wet. It is especially important on your first time around since it will make it less uncomfortable.

Foreplay can start with sexting, where you send each other naughty texts and pictures to build sexual energy. Then, when you are finally together, it should include a lot of kissing and touching to get you more aroused. Your partner can even give you a full body massage, to make you feel more comfortable.

Skipping foreplay can be a disaster, especially if you aren’t wet enough. This can cause friction which will be uncomfortable for you, and possibly your partner and can lead to a bad first-time experience

Final word

Taking it slow is important, especially when it is your first time. It will take a while to ease yourself into it and get an orgasm, so don’t feel discouraged.

Once you follow this guideline you are basically set. All that’s left to do is to do the deed.